#letsbefrank, us guys can be lovely. But we can also be not-so lovely. Not sure whether you’ve met the one? Or just another guy who won’t call, won’t text and won’t scrub love you. Here are a few ways to find out the easy way if he is here to stay.

I’m here to help you decipher if that handsome man you shared three espresso martinis with last night is in fact in it for the long haul, or just another one that will bite the dust.

#tobefrank, I thought I was the one. Just kidding. I know I cannot satisfy all your needs – after all, I don’t have arms – as sad as that makes me.

First things first: body language – something that tells the opposite sex more than you’d ever like them to know. If you know how to read it, it can speak a thousand words.

Your wish is my command.

Babes, listen up. I give to you the male body in 6 ways:

#1: The Alpha Male. While women look for their male to be dominant and primitive, there is a fine line between leading the way, and being a jerk. Look out for him costuming as a peacock (loud movements, big gestures, overpowering walk or stance) to hide his subtle insecurities.

#2: The Charmer. Men want to flirt, and if they want to flirt with you, they’ll make eye contact. If you’re digging it, hold the eye contact for slightly longer and lend him a warm smile. He’ll get the hint. Just make sure he can back up that charm with conversation and wit.

#3: The Nice Guy. He will respect your personal space, and let you talk and ease into things. He nods patiently and listens, he might ask to join you, rather than barging into your comfort zone. This guy is worth giving more than five minutes of your day.

#4: The Clinger. Small things such as shifting in his seat closer to you or carefully placing his keys near you, or worse, his hands, is a sure sign that he’s not going away. Remember netball, babes: 3-foot is the rule.

#5: Mr. Big. All humans are conditioned to respond to stimuli such as a phone. Turning that phone off means he obviously thinks you’re more important than the person on the other end of the line. This is good, babe. Putting his hand up and motioning you to Shhhh, is not. Remember, whatever men are like when you first meet them, it’s likely to only get worse. #letsbefrank

#6: Friends Zone. He calls you ‘mate’, gives you high fives, and lets you pay for the first round. All I can say is, move on ladies, move on.

You want a guy who gets you at ‘hello’, right? All I can say is watch for the signs, and if you’re still confused, perhaps just ask: Do you scrub? That’ll show the way. #realmenscrub.

What else can give a guy away? Help me tell some fellow babes on social: frank body

xx frank

Pics via @menandcoffee